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Jealousy Is Sabotaging Your Prosperity

Cory Miller, CEO of iThemes and a good friend of mine, just posted a great article about Imposter Syndrome’s partner in crime: Jealousy.

I had gotten consumed in seeing other people succeed with less effort and honesty, by taking shortcuts, getting more acclaim and traction while we toiled without our proper due. And I was mad. I felt it wasn’t fair. I felt we were justly entitled to that success. So I grumbled. I groaned. I got angry.

And it affected everything in my life and business. It crippled our progress and prosperity.

Sadly, it took maybe a year of this self-inflicted misery and self-sabotage, to realize and fully embrace one simple yet ironic truth about it all:

It’s not about them. 

It was never about them. And it should never have been about them.

Cory goes on to talk about how to turn that jealousy around and become a more productive, successful person.

Check out the post, it’s definitely worth a read: Jealousy Is Sabotaging Your Prosperity.

10 Things you need to stop doing today to be happier.

Great article that my mother-in-law shared on behaviours* that are destructive to our own happiness.

  1. Stop complaining.
  2. Stop Judging.
  3. Stop avoiding your fear.
  4. Stop being so hard on yourself.
  5. Stop being negative.
  6. Stop caring about what other people think of you.
  7. Stop worrying about the small stuff.
  8. Stop needing to be right all the time.
  9. Stop blaming others.
  10. Stop living in the past or the future.

Reach the whole thing: at Elephant Journal.

  • Excuse the u, I am in London at the moment…

How to Create Better Relationships

Read a great article about creating better relationships– the highlights:

  1. Treat other people as you would like to be treated.
  2. Truly listen.
  3. Be assertive.
  4. Remember to give the small gifts of kindness.
  5. Mix things up.
  6. Have human standards.
  7. Focus on solutions, instead of arguing on and on.

These are, individually, all things that I’ve tried to work on for years. This article does a great job at helping you think about the way that others perceive you, and the way that you communicate. Read the whole article here…

Defining Success

SANDCASTLESIt can be hard to define success for yourself, it’s so tempting to treat it as a moving target– “When I have X dollars, then I’ll be successful”, “When I get Y promotion, then I’ll be successful”.

John James Jacoby published a great post today about defining success, and how that’s changed through his life. An inspiring read, for sure.

A brief excerpt:

Today, right now, I define “success” as follows:

Use television to relax, educate, and procrastinate on purpose

Use video games to supplement my aging imagination

Use music to drown-out my wandering ADD-afflicted mind

Use love to fuel solutions to life’s problems

Use my job to improve the quality of relationships in peoples lives

Use the culmination of my career experience to build great things (like BuddyPress, bbPress, GlotPress, WordPress, & Flox to name a few)

Stop pretending and take action – if it’s not actionable, appreciate the experience and take notes

Appreciate my wife in a unique way each day, and make babies

Be compassionate and considerate above all else

via Defining Success | John James Jacoby.

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