Jealousy Is Sabotaging Your Prosperity

Cory Miller, CEO of iThemes and a good friend of mine, just posted a great article about Imposter Syndrome’s partner in crime: Jealousy.

I had gotten consumed in seeing other people succeed with less effort and honesty, by taking shortcuts, getting more acclaim and traction while we toiled without our proper due. And I was mad. I felt it wasn’t fair. I felt we were justly entitled to that success. So I grumbled. I groaned. I got angry.

And it affected everything in my life and business. It crippled our progress and prosperity.

Sadly, it took maybe a year of this self-inflicted misery and self-sabotage, to realize and fully embrace one simple yet ironic truth about it all:

It’s not about them. 

It was never about them. And it should never have been about them.

Cory goes on to talk about how to turn that jealousy around and become a more productive, successful person.

Check out the post, it’s definitely worth a read: Jealousy Is Sabotaging Your Prosperity.

How to Create Better Relationships

Read a great article about creating better relationships– the highlights:

  1. Treat other people as you would like to be treated.
  2. Truly listen.
  3. Be assertive.
  4. Remember to give the small gifts of kindness.
  5. Mix things up.
  6. Have human standards.
  7. Focus on solutions, instead of arguing on and on.

These are, individually, all things that I’ve tried to work on for years. This article does a great job at helping you think about the way that others perceive you, and the way that you communicate. Read the whole article here…

Defining Success

SANDCASTLESIt can be hard to define success for yourself, it’s so tempting to treat it as a moving target– “When I have X dollars, then I’ll be successful”, “When I get Y promotion, then I’ll be successful”.

John James Jacoby published a great post today about defining success, and how that’s changed through his life. An inspiring read, for sure.

A brief excerpt:

Today, right now, I define “success” as follows:

Use television to relax, educate, and procrastinate on purpose

Use video games to supplement my aging imagination

Use music to drown-out my wandering ADD-afflicted mind

Use love to fuel solutions to life’s problems

Use my job to improve the quality of relationships in peoples lives

Use the culmination of my career experience to build great things (like BuddyPress, bbPress, GlotPress, WordPress, & Flox to name a few)

Stop pretending and take action – if it’s not actionable, appreciate the experience and take notes

Appreciate my wife in a unique way each day, and make babies

Be compassionate and considerate above all else

via Defining Success | John James Jacoby.

Lessons in Performance – Chris Lema

Every single morning I sit down and I write the three things I’m gunna get done that day.  That’s “Defining My Three.” I have to choose carefully, but those are the three things I care about. If those three things are done, I can call the end of the day a success.   Three things, not 15, not 25, not a full schedule of stuff.  Three things.  But here’s the thing.  If, five days out of seven, you can take three things and you can get them done and you do that for weeks every year and you do that for years … people won’t know there were other things you didn’t get done because they’ll just be looking at a long list of shit you got done.

Chris Lema speaking at Pressnomics 2015 via WP Tavern

Being A Manager Is Lonely

Interesting article on being in middle management (that is, anywhere where you have at least one person you supervise and at least one person who supervises you)

It is your responsibility as a manager to support the company’s decisions. Not just to execute on them, but to support them, to communicate that support, and if you disagree then you must hide that disagreement in the service of the company. You can disagree up — though even that is fraught with danger — but you can’t disagree down. You must hold yourself apart from your team, putting a wall between you and your team. To your team you are the company, not a peer.

via Beau Lebens originally from Being A Manager Is Lonely.

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